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Readers Respond: Have You Let Your Appearance Go Downhill?

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Updated May 31, 2011

Arthritis can get you down, in more ways than one. We often talk about how arthritis can limit physical function, but it can also affect your appearance. I'm not talking about joint deformities. I mean how much time you spend on your appearance. You may not take as much time or care putting on makeup, jewelry or getting that stylish haircut because arthritis erodes your self-esteem. Guys and gals may no longer care about what they wear. The "why bother" syndrome.

Have you let your appearance go since having arthritis?

APPEARANCE

SINCE BEING DIAGNOSED SEVERAL YEARS AGO WITH ARTHRITIS AND FIBRO, MY WHOLE LIFE HAS CHANGED, I DON'T HAVE THE ENERGY TO STAND IN THE MIRROR AND DO "MY FACE" OR HAIR, I PULL MY HAIR BACK IN A BUN OR PONYTAIL AND PUT THE MINIMUN AMOUNT OF FACE CARE USUALLY JUST MOISTURIZER. I WEAR LOOSE CLOTHING, LONG COVER EVERYTHING DRESSES OR COMFY LIGHTWEIGHT SWEATS NOTHING BINDING LIKE A TIGHT WAIST BAND OR A BRA. I HAVE A WHOLE PART OF ME MISSING THE PART THAT LIKED TO LOOK REALLY NICE AND I MISS THAT PART, AND NO AMOUNT OF GLORIFIED DRUG HELPS THAT.
—Guest DEBORAH

Trying not to

I am newly diagnosed but have fought feeling so uncomfortable in my clothes for months. I still haven't found a style that works for me but I am so glad to read I am not alone in my clothes hurting me.
—Guest Jane Hinrichs

Wanda the Walnut

I found that dressing comfortably (no girdle) was much better than slopping around in a loose dressing gown which made me feel worse re the OA. When I think back so many years - I had a baby sitter with RA - and she was so young - it never dawned on me that some day I would have OA, and at the time her disability just didn't sink in. What goes around comes around. I simply didn't think it would happen to me.
—vinny152

Feeling alone

So much happened as the OA got worse. I left my husband and my home, I moved into my daughters home. At that time I was still working so at least I had an outlet. Then all of a sudden I'm no longer working, on disabilty, my daughter does not understand the pain I'm in. No one wants to see their mother in pain so it was hard on her to see me suffer. I stopped seeing people because I was beginning to think I was crazy. Driving is hard on my knees so I don't drive much. I have a daughter that lives 6 hrs away and I can't drive that far to see my grandaughters. I feel like my life is over. I know it's not but some days I feel like it's too hard to get out of bed. Now I find out I also have RA. How do I live with that? I see women in pretty clothes but never wear them because I never go anywhere. How can I change the way I look at this? The only thing that has changed is my daughter now understands the pain. She now has OA and understands. I wish she never got this. I hope she does not get it as bad as me.
—Guest susan

It's a question of adaptation....

I have had to change my style for sure! I don't like to think I have let my self go...so to say, but rather I have had to adapt my style. Instead of high heeled shoes I now have to wear flats or sneakers. Instead of stockings I tend to go without (they are just too difficult to fight over) and instead of shorter dresses I now wear a shirt and longer skirt. But I still like to keep with the styles. Now my longer skirts are in (the bohemian look in fact) and flats have become an everyday thing with alot of fashionistas. I am not a fanatic about fashion but I do like to look good if I can. And if not...well we can always have our comfy clothes with the elastic waist band and t-shirt. And with makeup..well I highly recommend the mineral type which can be used for several different uses and is applied with a big round brush. Add a touch of lipstick and you are good to go! My appearance hasn't gone downhill but rather I have leveled the playing field for myself.
—Guest murphthesurf

R.A. has NAILED ME HARD!

My appearance has definitely gone downhill since I got R.A. ~ in some aspects I admit that it's related to depression, but needing to dress COMFORTABLY has a lot to do with it as well.
—Guest nailedmehard

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