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Reader Stories: Has Arthritis Affected Your Body Image?

From hardygal

Created January 21, 2011

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Describe Your Body Image

I feel very unattractive as I've put on a lot of weight due to a mixture of my meds and lack of exercise. My face is often very swollen and my eyes look puffy. I feel so ugly that when I leave my home i keep my head down and pray I don't meet any old friends as I feel people look down on me. I struggle to keep myself looking any better than I do, it's impossible for me to do things like wash and style my own hair. Also I can't go to the beauty salon as it's too uncomfortable and painful to sit for long enough to have any care treatments.

I'm so embarassed about my image and I keep going up in clothes size, I hate myself.

How Has Arthritis Affected Your Body Image?

I have put on a lot of weight. I can't wear the type of clothes I like. I look frumpy. I am filled with fluid so my face looks older than it should and I can no longer wear make up.

My hands are swollen so badly my skin looks shiny.

My skin is tight all over and it's always very dry. I can't straighten up due to back pain so I look smaller and I can no longer wear heels.

All my joints are red and inflamed and my skin is painful all over so the clothes I wear are baggy because it's painful when clothes touch my skin. I can no longer pick up small objects - my hands are misshaped. Even my nails look scruffy as I can't take care of them or put polish on them.

I have no body image any more. I never look in the mirror - it makes me cry.

What I'd Do Differently

  • I would be going to the gym at least 3 days per week if I was able to and I love going - it makes me feel alive and healthy.
  • If I could I would be going to the salon to get my hair done and I wouldn't look as bad, also I would go and have facials and then my skin would feel clean and fresh. I can't do any of this, I have to carry on as I am.
  • I don't live my life anymore, instead I struggle through life.

Do you have visible joint deformities?

Arched back and crooked hands.

Do you walk slow, with a limp, or need mobility aids?

I walk very slow and need to use crutches, also I use straps on my hands.

Do you feel unattractive because of arthritis?

Living in pain leaves me with no energy. I feel very unattractive.

Has your body image affected your social life?

I never go out socialising. I don't feel good enough in front of others.

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