Controlling Anger
There are techniques which can help you control your thoughts and in turn control your anger.
Imagery - Get rid of intense, angry feelings by letting your imagination diffuse some of the feelings. Allow yourself to imagine strangling the person who has made you feel angry, without actually carrying out the action. Imagery is a safer way for you to vent angry feelings.
Thought stopping - Do not allow the thoughts that are making you angry to continue. Shut down those thoughts by switching your concentration to something you find pleasant and enjoyable. By diverting your attention you help the anger to dissipate.
Change your expectations - People often get angry when their expectations are not met. Modifying your expectations can help you cope with anger. If you can afford more flexibility there is less chance for a situation to lead to anger.
Develop more understanding - Being aware of why a person behaves a certain way or why a person is saying something will help promote understanding. Try putting yourself in the other person's shoes and viewing a situation from their perspective.
Anger Need Not Be Negative
Physiological responses occur in the body when you become angry.
- blood pressure increases
- breathing and heart rate become more rapid
- muscles become tense
Anger which lasts a long time can physically damage the body. Anger is a form of energy which must be released and it is best to follow steps which help release it constructively. Anger need not be negative. If anger is controlled, it can be wisely used to communicate and negotiate a resolution.
Related Resources
Source: Coping With Rheumatoid Arthritis, by Robert H. Phillips, Ph.D.
